the 'blah blah' tag---u asked for it ;)

This tag was long pending in my blog 'to do' list...i had completely (err almost) forgotten about it till i was reminded by veens today...and so without any more delay i took it up...(well what better means of entertaining one's bored mind on a lazzy sunday?)

I was tagged by ceedy and then by veens for the same tag...and though i dunno if i have done full justice to the tag,(because i know i could have written a lot more to explain myself better..but then u would complain i write too much..hmpf!!)yet i guess i have fairly put enough of my views forth on here...:)
my apologies to both ceedy and veens for neglecting it for soo long and letting it lie gathering dust...
so without further adieu, here i go:

1) It is important to be liked by others...

well, there was a point in life when i thought this to be very important...i wanted everyone to like me..and so tried to be nice to everyone..sometimes much more than what was required...
it was only later that i realised that i was probably, in the process not being entirely myself all the time...probably i was too worried about maintaining an image...an image i had built...an aura of niceness all around me...and it was only when i started feeling suffocated that i realised it was probably getting too much...
was i losing my identity in this 'niceness' game?? was i pretending to agree with some views which were never my own?? and why was i doing that? just to be liked by everyone??
I also realised that i was being dishonest (although in a harmless way)when i let everyone believe i agreed with them,sometimes even over things i dint, and i would end up hurting them eventually by speaking my mind out when things got too far...
yes it was a painful realisation (as most are) but then things changed...
thats when i understood the meaning of "i'd rather be hated for what i am than be loved for what im not" and started abiding by it...
its true that being liked by everyone is a nice feeling but 'not being yourself' for the same is definitely not worth it...
afterall in the end, u know uve lived ur life right when u can meet eye to eye with the one in the mirror and say 'well done' :)

2) Obedience is a virtue:

hmm that depends...it might not be always the case...
I believe one knows best and obeying someone is probably accepting that he/she knows better than u...im not saying this is wrong...if it feels right , it probably is...
like many a times , we have felt that our parents/seniors/friends/enemies et al are right on a particular point...thats when our 'i accept' button gets activated by default...but sometimes we choose to ignore it...
in my opinion, we should think for ourselves (NEVER let anyone else do the thinking for u)and if it feels right, then go ahead and agree wholeheartedly...
but if it dosent, then one has every right to defy...
just look into ur heart and ul'l get all the answers...:)

3) People are not malicious but they become so because of bad experiences or circumstances:

well...i dunno what to say...again this view of mine has changed over time...
When i was younger, i used to feel that 'nobody changes'..if ur bad, you are...period!!
but then life has, at many points shown me the other side too...ive seen people changing drastically after setbacks...
bitter experiences or bad circumstances can definitely bring about changes in the persons personality but i still believe they can never be permanent...
there are times when u are soo angry with life that u kinda want to follow the 'do unto others what others have done unto u' philosophy...but as time passes, u realise u just cant afford to carry on that way because it isnt u!!
u are being bitter and probably (in the worst situation) u would always be but u dont have any right to vent it out on someone who isnt responsible for it...and if u continue doing that, the circle will never end and probably someday it would stop at u again...
so its better to learn from our experiences and setbacks than adopt a negative attitude just to get even...and the question is? even with whom?? life...fate ...destiny?? hah! as if it cares!!

4) Education broadens our view and makes people more humane:

hmm i believe the world is this vast sea of knowledge and taking a plunge definitely helps to understand it better...
education should definitely be given due credit because it does help broaden our views...it helps by transferring great minds and their thoughts through books and works...we are able to understand different viewpoints on common topics which we wouldent have been as exposed to otherwise...i agree..i agree with it all...
but does it make people more humane???
if u mean more 'civilised', then i would probably agree with u again...
but does 'humane' mean just 'civilised'...i beg to differ...

5) People who have no money troubles are happier:

lol!! thats the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard...
i guess i dont need to explain my view further...huh??


6) As people get older they get wiser:

well i would like to believe that...but sometimes jus cant *rolling her eyes*
ok sorry...on a serious note, i would give an older person some extra credit because life definitely teaches u a few things along the way, whether u want it to or not...besides there is the concept of more 'textbook learning years' as well (though after a point the latter dosent matter)...
but ONLY if the person is wise enough to learn from his mistakes or smart enough to learn from those of others around him, would he be a little better than others who are chronologically less mature than him...
otherwise as tom wilson said, Wisdom doesn't necessarily come with age. Sometimes age just shows up all by itself...

At the same time i wouldent snub someone just because he/she is young and must have not seen as much of the world as i have...nor would i underestimate their capacity ...because im aware that life dosent always offer u experiences after asking u ur age :)
some people just 'face young'...'learn young'...'grow up young'!!

7) You can live on love and fresh air:

where there is love, there is a will (not the legal 'will' u idiot!..hmpf!!)...and where there is a will, there is a way...
so u can work out the rest...but only if u r as crazy as me :p

On a little more realistic note,arnt we all living on just that?
love for our ambition makes us work harder...
love for success makes us aim higher...
love for ourselves/loved ones make us live happier...
so in a way, arnt we all living on love?? and ohh fresh air comes as a free package..*grin*
and its not all that bad...we living pretty fine arnt we?? ;)

8) There is a celestial guardian angel looking after each one of us:

sometimes i do so want to believe that things could turn right with the wave of a magic wand...i do want to believe that there is some 'fairygodmother' out there looking for me and all i have to do is keep a pumpkin and two rats ready...sigh!!
nah! dont get me wrong...there is no harm in dreaming but if u believe in guardian angels , u gotta believe in evil forces, trolls, dragons and goblins as well...and i think il'l better stay away from all that lest it throws me into a fairytale and i have problems coming back...:-/

and considering my shoe size, the prince could very well walk away with even 'godzilla' wearing the glass slipper...*looks at her big feet and sobs uncontrollably*

i do believe in a stronger force though which i depend upon at times...especially when it comes to things i know i cant do anything about...and many a times this force has pulled me through and im thankful! :)

9) All living beings reincarnate:

hmmmmm...u mean to say there is something more to those flashes i keep getting than just overactive imagination??? *scratches her chin*
when in school,i used to often scare my friends and family saying that i would reincarnate and come back in the same house and school...(they couldent and still cant stand the thought of having to tolerate me in another life.*rolls her eyes*)...
This weird fantasy of mine was further encouraged by those bollywood blockbusters back then when the girl would die and come back reincarnated to marry her true love and give the story a happy ending...
i remember dreaming along the same lines till one day i researched further into the topic and was brutally told by a friend that u cant really make sure of what form ul'l be born as in the next life and that u may be anyone/thing...like a animal, rodent, vegetable, bird,inanimate object ...anything at all!!
on hearing this i went into denial but then read the same thing in a book (gifted by the same evil friend after knowing my passion for the topic)...
From that day i stopped believing in reincarnation...or rather avoid thinking about it...hmpf!! who would want to come as a carrot in another life? :-/

10) Heaven and Hell are places you go to after death:

ohh really??...do they take reservations???..i dont like standing too long at gates u know ...*throws attitude*

PHEW!! that was long...but now im not as bored anymore...cant say the same about u guys though..heehee
so i wont torture u anymore...anyone who wants to take up this tag is free to do so...dont forget to drop me the link...would love to read :)

cheers!!