Some people think 'love' is an experiment...
instead of letting 'love' find them, they start their own search...their search for love...experimenting on the way...playing games...faking feelings...leading innocent hearts into believing them...and then finally ending it...because ultimately it is nothing but an experiment to them and 'experiments' cant go on forever...
here is to all those people who love to experiment with feelings...with emotions...with love...
u think u learn a lot in the process dontya??
when the 'experiment' is on,
u learn what exactly to say to make him/her happy...
u learn how much u need love in your life...
u learn how much u had missed the care all those years u dint have it...
u learn how much u had craved for that attention...
u learn how good it feels to know someone loves u with all they have...
u learn that there is someone ready to turn his/her back to the whole world for u...
u learn how happy u feel with that someone in ur life...
when the 'experiment' finally ends,
u learn what not to say...
u learn the value of tears...
u learn the importance of caring...
u learn how much ur promise meant to someone
u learn how badly it hurt someone u love when u broke their heart...
u learn that no matter what, someone will always love u...
u learn that someone might never be able to forgive u for 'the experiment'...
u learn that someone could give up their life just to see u happy...
u learn how u could mean the world to someone...
u learn that u have the capacity to destroy a life...
u learn the meaning of 'love'...
u learn to believe that it happened because it was destined to happen that way and that u arnt responsible for it...
and one fine day, several years later,
u will learn that u eventually do feel guilty only to find out its too late...
u will learn never to laugh at someones emotions...
u will learn never to challenge the power of love...
u will learn never to make promises u cant keep cos by then you will have been at the receiving end somewhere in another story...
u will learn to be responsible for ur actions cos by then you will have experienced the hurt through someones irresponsibility...
u will learn never to mock at feelings cos by then you will have felt the pain of being mocked at...
u will learn that you yearn for those times again...
u will learn that its too late to repent...
u will learn that neither u nor the other could ever move on like planned...
u will learn that some things...some people...will haunt you forever, even when not around...
u will learn that inspite of all the maturity gained through the experience, the experiment was NEVER worth the bargain...
and it is then that u will realise that love is not about 'experimenting' with someones emotons...with someones trust...with someones feelings...
but then its too late...the 'experiment' almost always has already backfired by then!!
P.S:written for 'sundayscribblings' inspired by the prompt--"the experiment"
(special thanks to 'solitaire' and the readers who commented on her post here who managed to convince me that perhaps what goes around, does come around!!)
31 comments:
doc.. actually the problem is .. some people never learn ..
they nvr realize.. they jus go on n on..
@Pri
U learn that you love the feeling of being in love more than anything else and it makes it so much difficult to forget the person u were in love with(and still are).
:)
@Pri
///and it is then that u realise that love is not about 'experimenting' with someones emotons...with someones trust...with someones feelings...///
and the one whos on the recieving end of this experiment is never able to understand what has happened and y he was choosen for this???
Still he wishes that the one who experimented, remains happy but praying that she never experiments this with someone else too.
:)
u just summed up life pri...special thanks to all those who inspired u to write this...
but i still hope that the eventuality of every "experiment" varies a little and the one being done on me doesn't backfire!
Oh boy... that thing called love!!
@ abhi
yes abhi...im aware of what u are saying...but one day they will realise...
just that sometimes realisations come a bit late to some people and by that time all the damage is done...
and then again, a human who goes on repeating his mistakes and never learns is not human enough...
at some point life demands an answer from everyone...
so keep the faith! :)
@ ankur
u got it right ankur...
love is weird isnt it?? :)
even after u end up broken,u never end up hating the person as much as u would sometimes like to...
and for some, its just an experiemnt to learn something from...
dunno who is luckier---the one who loved truly and lost OR the one who never loved and still won (in a way)?
@ vandita
i know what u mean vands...
backfiring here dosent necessary mean getting back what u give...but also the realisation of the mistake...
keep the faith :)
@ j
yeah..that thing called 'love'...sigh!!
Greetings,
Hm...
Some people still learn the history, but they still experimenting the false.
Experimenting with emotion? Hm... i see nightmare in it. :p
@Pri
Love is never wierd and i stand by it. It was a fantastic feeling to be in and though you were at the receiving end you still recollect those good'ol memories.
If you were in love, you cant end up hating that person, its a mirage that you hate, but you hate the feeling of not in love with that person.
I think i should correct my self about the experiment part, some were infatuated, some loved, and for some it was a game. For none of these three categories it was an experiment. You dont love someone to experiment.
Love is no rocket science, let us keep it simple. Love was never maths, physics or chemistry so that we call it an experiment.
It happens and it happens. I cant even explain this line coz there is no theory to it.
You know, i still feel i was lucky that i knew that person. what happened and y we broke will never make me regret about wat i did. May be the person is more happier now. I always believed love is more than getting physical or living together. Its a feeling. Whether you live together or not can never change those feelings.
and the one who never loved isnt true doc, its just the way we feel. Believe me, they did love us.
And yes, i do hate the feeling of not in love now.
:)
@All
It isn't possible to love and part...You can transmutate love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you... Love is eternal!!!
good one :) i agree with abhi, some ppl never learn and keep failing, failing and failing.....
love is all abt a serious risk, which might or might not work!!!
Everything is an experiment when it comes right down to it. I recently said to my husband, "It's all a big field trip that I'm taking good notes on." (a writer's job).
I enjoyed thinking about love as an experiment.
Hmm! Yes! I guess you are right!
But when we start a relationship itz all about experimenting.. but well
I understand you are talking of people who know it won't work from the start! Yes, and I confess I have done that also I guess.
But then I did wish at some point of time that it would work but it didn't!
Guess I am not angry.. just more conscious..
LOVELY write up!
you are on a mission to send people on a guilt trip ehh?!!
:D
lov and hugzz!
@ amiene.rev
i guess it is a nightmare...especially for the person at the receiving end...
@ ankur
hmmm...left with nothing to say...
u pretty much summed it all...but then again, we missing a point here...
its not about the glory of love we talking about but about how ppl choose to play with feelings...
well ive heard ppl actually claim that 'love' is an experiment (pretty much the wrong ppl though)...
they prefer to measure things up, compare results and then choose which outcome is favourable...and thats why the comparisn...
@ ashu
i agree when u say love is a risk...and the final outcome sometimes may not be in our hands...
but as long as there are genuine feelings and emotions involved,nothing matters ...because u both know uve tried ur best...
@ colleen
often we do just that...try to enjoy the idea not bothering about the results :)
@ veens
atleast u realised sweets because and u r honest, mainly to urself...
there are soo many people who 'play' love...and all the while at the cost of someones emotions...and these are precisely the people who realise the damage last...usually when its too late...
and then there are those who seem to never realise and keep playing the game, just changing the subject...
the very fact that u wanted it to materialise means u were serious about it...unfortunately sometimes things dont work as planned...
and sometimes we know and yet cant help falling in love :)
hugzz
hmmm...perhaps to me it sounds like one of the illogical blogs you wrote.
Define love for me please.
As far as I know there's no definition for love.I mean it's very subjective.
One person finds a sweet spot in the world where he or she can come and let her feelings flow. As long as the flow is recevied, there's something called love. Soon as the doors close from the otherside people get hurt bysomething they thought was love and they call the otherside was 'experimenting' with love, stone hearted and all other things.
Universal agreement on definition on love would be an unconditional and no return expecting care from a person. It's is nearly impossible to find something like that between two grown ups who already had their personality shaped which is not 100% compatible especially when people change over time.
So stop framing words like god and love when you need them and hate them when they dont help you or give you solace. It's all in you!
ur right Pri..Love is certainly not an experiment..u cant just put an effort and find love, u can only come across it.
HUGS!
Keshi.
Pri I want ur input in my today's post. tnxx hun!
Keshi.
err...mmm....after reading so many comments i m confused...errr... what was the original topic?
anyway i m newcomer here so i dont think i hv anything to say hehe
@Pri
yes pri, i think i missed on it, though intentionally. you know doc, they are among us, our friends.
and those who experiment to compare will never understand what true love is. They forget, "Love is not abt taking, its abt giving."
The way to love anything is to realize it may be lost.
Ahem!!!
P.S. Love is something on which i can never stop writing, forgive me for my explcit remarks and moving away from the subject.
A new post is up.
This deserves a standing ovation from me to you. U wrote every breath of my take on this and long-standing feelings here. Wait i am gonna link this post on my blog soon. Muahz!
I certainly do believe in the circle of life.
The hunter becomes the hunted one day.
Keep it rollin;)
This is what wikipedia defines experiment as
"In the scientific method, an experiment is a set of observations performed in the context of solving a particular problem or question, to retain or falsify a hypothesis or research concerning phenomena"
since Love is not a problem, nor a question, and love cannot have a fixed hypothesis, nor a phenomenon you cannot call it an experiment :D
i know of people who consider love to be just an experiment.
and i know what u mean :(
unfortunately they weill never realise the value of emotions
Love is part of life. Experiment? Never!
Refluxing Life
i wouldnt put it up as experiment but mainly as "experience", but then isnt everything in life experience and hence experiment, starting from the first actions you take.
And like many people never learn from their experiences regarding anything in life, they never learn anything from "being in love" also.
It is not like we play with emotions intentionally as well as we dont experiment with our parents' feelings when we dont hear to what they are telling us, and not experimenting with our siblings' feelings when we fight and argue with them, as well as we dont experiment with feelings of friends every time something goes wrong.
Thats life, thats how we go, it is all about learning, getting experience. If only we could be a little bit more wise before we start learning but then how can we gain this wisdom without failing every now and then?
:-)
Some people believe that they are God's gift to mankind and only their experiments will show the world new ways and new results.
nope, when people experiment love, when they fake feelings, they never repent!!
Pri... Sorry for commenting late... Series of thoughts, very true. But I always belived Love should find me, I shouldn't search for it. Many ppl till date think I'm crazy.
ahaaa
dont come here for few days and a controversy embroils.....
but isnt it the way you look at it....
i might sound more absurd and practical than you......but in every aspect of life we have choices - we can taste food and decide whether we like it or no - same with clothes - and lots of other stuff......
also there are strong givens - parents - extended family - siblings.....which we cannot just let go....
now love belongs to the first category.....not the given - so whats wrong in experiments......
So well said I cannot go without complimenting you :)
you sound too passionate in the post! personal touch, eh?
now why the hell didn't i commeny around here??? i do remember reading itg all up n thinking of a response!! damn... i have to get the net at home...
will be back!!
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