of viewing your field from the other side of the fence...

The easiest way to reach the right conclusion, is to see the situation you are in from a third person's perspective.
You gotta watch it like a reel playing on a screen--only then can things fall in place and the confusion can get sorted..
Often times its most difficult to do this since placing your self out in the audience while the drama unfolds is a tough thing to do.but its only when we do that, that we are able to see things crystal clear.
Only then, the bias is eliminated.
Its like watching a movie and making a judgement about the story line.
That is precisely when we figure out how our perspective changes when it comes to our life and the life of someone else..
Most of us are great as agony aunts--always willing to offer help and advice to our friends in times of need even when it isnt really needed..always ready with pearls of wisdom and what we think is the right thing to do in so-and-so situation..strong minded individuals who will take no shit from anyone or so we seem to them.
Infact when we are asked for advice, we are the first to say what is right and wrong and how we should stand up for ourselves.
While watching a movie, we are the first to criticise the bad guy..sneer at the idiot..and laugh at the situation.
but the truth is when we ourselves are caught up in similar situations, we falter..we hesitate..we bite off more than we can chew..and tolerate more than we can.
Why is it that eveyrthing changes when it comes to our own selves..our own lives?
Why dont we realise our mistakes, our faults as quick??
But no we wont! we continue to play the fool.
We cling onto the slightest ray of hope..we start believing in miracles and we run miles away from reality..in short we take a plunge straight into denial.
Whatever side we are on, we believe we are right and continue to behave the way we want to--sometimes like emotional fools and sometimes like ungrateful wretches. Either we take the people who matter to us for granted or let ourselves be taken for granted..
Either we allow ourselves to hurt or be hurt..
Either we cause pain just because we have the power to do so or we bear it till we can no more...
and almost always, we hope that things will change for the better even when there is no chance..or continue till things keep getting worse and worse with the confidence that it never will.
Perhaps we just dont realise or dont want to realise that people and things never change unless there is a realisation...and the bitter truth is that realisations if dont occur to the self, will never bring about a change!

All said and done, it is only when we watch our life as a movie reel flashing infront of our eyes--from the audience row that we realise where we are actually going wrong.That is precisely when we are capable of reaching the correct conclusion and taking a sensible decision..


Yet, it is never too late to mend...so get away from the camera and jump into the audience..change the way you are looking at things..be your own critic panel and make a happy difference to your own life.

happy watching! :)