November 02, 2011

Of space and trust or the lack of it...

What do you do when your present is still holding onto the ghost of your past long after you have let go...when someone who claims to love you turns so possessive that he asks for an account of every single detail of your life, at the cost of it looking like an accusation?
Everyone needs some time on their own..time to reflect..time to contemplate..time to run away from everything--just for a while.
Space is something we gotta respect and let live..for it is the space & distance that kindles the spark in a relationship.
Obviously not too much, but some amount of space is needed for the survival of a lasting love.

Seeing everything with suspicion, asking details, reading between the lines as if to search for loopholes, makes one wonder about the one essential element in a relationship--trust, without which it can never exist.
In one corner of my mind, the familiar song plays yet again...
"We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds"

And I wonder, how easy and guilt-free would it be to break the trust that never existed in the first place...

10 comments:

Priyadarshini Joyce said...

**"We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds"

yehss

very true...

but we sure can let our love for each other be above all suspicion..
easier said than done.. I know though...
But not impossible ...

Red Handed said...

Trust is the foundation stone of any relationship. Suspicion is a silent killer.
Could relate to this post

rm said...

its not worth trying to build a relationship if there is no space and trust.

Kunal said...

Trust...difficult to build..easy to break...

True...Space is important in a relationship...otherwise..it can lead to suffocation..

I wish you all the best! :)

Pri said...

@ priya joyce
if the love between the two is true, there is no place for suspicion...
the very fact that doubt has raised its ugly head, means that either one or both of them are falling out...

Pri said...

@ red handed
i cannot agree more with you.
once the trust is gone, hanging on to the relationship is futile.
and trust is such that once lost, can never be regained.

Pri said...

@ rm
true that!

Pri said...

@ kunal
i agree with you---space is important in the right measure.

less of it can be suffocating...though more of it can qualify as indifference too :)

as for the post, it is just something that crossed my mind.
perhaps some locked up feelings manage to seep through narrow cracks in the heart and intermingle with random thoughts in the mind only to find peace when shared :)

Priyadarshini Joyce said...

exactly pri exactly!!

Anonymous said...

so true... Pri.

Love to read you.

Fernanda from Portugal